My People

My People
My People - Cosette, Austin, Oliver, Cody, me & Ryan. Just think, had I not lived, these people wouldn't be on the planet. They are my whole heart!

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

a drive by

Just a quickie... who knows how long this battery will last? *laugh* I might one day get this repaired... right now it's helping me be disciplined and not spend as much time online!

Picked up the divorce papers. They're just generic... just a form that says, "we don't like each other any more... we don't have kids together... we have no marital property".... that's all true. Nothing to dispute there. I can contest. I don't know that it's worth the effort or money. I mean, what do I want from him, other than to not be married to him? I can counter sue in Georgia and file on grounds of adultery... but what does that gain for me other than for it to be in the public record?

I know y'all want me to be protected but there are no children. No court in the country is going to give me anything more than what he's already given me. It's just spinning our wheels. I will need legal help to complete the stupid form, unfortunately.

And to prove my bi-polarity, I love the new Old Navy commercial... the one with the mannequins... the girl's name is Heather and her finger breaks off. I laugh every time I see it.

I stopped by the Cottage House restaurant for chicken tenders and broccoli casserole to soothe my hurt feelings on the way home... and I think all it did was grow my butt... but, whatever... it will all be ok.

From the life in a small town file: while waiting at the White County Law Enforcement building the nice big ole sheriff asked if I had been fishin' yet today. "Now that's a crime, not fishin' in this weather". I said, "honey, I'm a city girl, I'd have to have somebody along to bait my hook". He said, "well, I'd let you off so long as you'd sit on the riverbank and soak up the sun". "Deal". Seriously.

I'm not sure why they couldn't serve the papers to me. I asked the sheriff if it was because they were filed with my address listed as "Wanda St" instead of "Wanda Dr". He laughed and said, "we all know there's only one road named Wanda around here"... I was trying to think of some Fish Named Wanda / Road Named Wanda connection but I've got nothing.

I wonder why they didn't try to serve me at Wednesday night bible study... I mean, there are no secrets in this town. The girl down at the Rite Aid knows what size panty hose I wear... the girl at the Cottage House Restaurant knows I want a dinner roll instead of cornbread.... the only question would be if my brother Jim that's the pastor at First Baptist church is the tall Jim or the Jim that golfs.

Wow. This turned out to be longer than I expected.

Better hit save before my luck runs out. Love and hugs, y'all!




6 comments:

sober white women said...

Just for the record I think you are doing the right thing. I left with my girls and gave him EVERYTHING. I just wanted out.
Fighting will just give you more trouble.
Kelli

Tina said...

no longer than you were married, you are probably right. as for them not serving you, chances are, there was no real attempt TO serve you. they just didn't do it. "Can't find her" sounds better than, "Just couldn't be bothered" also, in Chattanooga, they have THOUSANDS of things that need to be served and just don't have the manpower to get it all done. That could very well be the issue there.
enjoy your evening!
Tina

rwdrake said...

You still need a lawyer. Lawyers in this case are good.

Yes, I can understand wanting to paint half your face blue, toss on the Catholic School Girl Skirt, run to the mountain side and scream "FREEDOM!" (BTW, if you do this, please video tape),

Still, being a married a little longer to get some protection and a settlement that makes sense is absolutely worth it.

You're entitled to peace of mind, and a piece of the assets you put into the marriage.

That being said, go forth with your life, enjoy the sun, and keep kicking it... and make your way to Lenox nd to the apple store so you can get a new cable.

Jeanne said...

Yep, don't fight it. HE IS AN ASS. That is already public record, at least in THIS part of town. You've been through enough. Just get it over with and kick him to the curb. Sleeze that he is....

A dinner roll instead of CORNBREAD? Oh come on!!!! NO WAY!! (lol)

Jeanne

Peaceful Epiphany said...

Well, at least you got the papers. You know what they look like. You know they aren't gonna BITE ya and you didn't fall apart looking atthem. You are still HERE and you know what? There is some kind of FREEDOM in just having them in hand.

YES, it's bittersweet. It signifies the "end" to a marriage that you thought was never going to end. It signifies the absolute and definite "be all end all" to the question you have been asking him all this time. Yes...it's definitely OVER. The fat lady has sung and she gave you those nasty papers as a lovely parting gift.

BUT....HE got the ball rolling on it. HE paid to file, and HE paid to serve you. Amen.

Now, get good counsel, follow their advice and squueze every penny you can out of MJD's a$$ before ANDREA gets her paws on him anymore than she already has.

YES, you deserve as much as you can get out of him...and THAT'S A LOT!!! You almost lost your damn LIFE for that a$$hole!!! Now, get your SHARE!!

I am praying for you Heather!!!
Jen

Peaceful Epiphany said...

Well, at least you got the papers. You know what they look like. You know they aren't gonna BITE ya and you didn't fall apart looking atthem. You are still HERE and you know what? There is some kind of FREEDOM in just having them in hand.

YES, it's bittersweet. It signifies the "end" to a marriage that you thought was never going to end. It signifies the absolute and definite "be all end all" to the question you have been asking him all this time. Yes...it's definitely OVER. The fat lady has sung and she gave you those nasty papers as a lovely parting gift.

BUT....HE got the ball rolling on it. HE paid to file, and HE paid to serve you. Amen.

Now, get good counsel, follow their advice and squueze every penny you can out of MJD's a$$ before ANDREA gets her paws on him anymore than she already has.

YES, you deserve as much as you can get out of him...and THAT'S A LOT!!! You almost lost your damn LIFE for that a$$hole!!! Now, get your SHARE!!

I am praying for you Heather!!!
Jen